Secrets to Raising Happy Successful Children

doctor-for-teen-homepageParents want it, but don’t always know how to attain it: to raise confident and successful children, who also happen to be happy. Some parents, though, have discovered the secret. Instead of trying to decode their “recipe,” I decided to ask them what it takes. Not surprisingly, I found that there are similarities among parenting styles of moms and dads who raise happy, successful children.

Passion and Strength

Michelle and Lionel Cassini saw early on that their four-year old, Cecilia, had a passion for clothes. She would design and look at colors and even alter clothing. When she was in first grade her parents bought her a sewing machine so her passion could become a strength. By identifying early on what she loved, then giving her the opportunity to explore it, at age fifteen, Cecilia is now a fashion designer to the stars, including Sofia Vergara and Miley Cyrus.

Let Them Fail

Geroge Monroy’s grade school aged son, Caine, was spending the summer at his dad’s East L.A. used car parts store. To kill time the young man created an arcade game out of a cardboard box and attempted to charge customers for the opportunity to play it. No one was interested.

Caine created more games during the entire summer, and not one customer. Even his friends at school the following year, refused to believe he had created an arcade at his dad’s shop. George didn’t rush in to save his son, to give him a false sense of success. Instead he let him “figure it out” and sit in his “failure” for a bit, until one day Caine got his first customer, who happened to be a filmmaker. That customer posted a video of Caine’s Arcade online and the boy has since inspired cardboard creativity across the world, has given TED talks, and has been offered education opportunities at UCLA and M.I.T. You can’t know success, without first experiencing failure.

Giving Back

The kids that I spoke with who were “successes” and happy, were also children who gave back to their community and causes. Katie Walter, the seventeen-year old young lady who was the youngest to reach the South Pole in 2009 used her expedition to raise funds for an air ambulance as well as for Dyslexia in Action. Jordan Romero, the young man who climbed the seven tallest summits in the world, used some of the money he earned from speaking after his feat to help pay his way to Africa to help build a school. Mike Perham, the youngest person to sail around the world, incorporates charity in all his events helping organizations like Tall Ships Youth Trust and Save the Children.

According to a study done by World Volunteer Web, “youth who volunteer…are more likely to feel connected to their communities, and tend to do better in school.” A child’s overall health and happiness can make dramatic improvements just by giving back to his community. So, give your child the chance to help others, volunteer at an animal shelter or donate a portion of their allowance to those in need.

Why do we want our kids to be successful and confident? When it comes right down to it, it’s because we want them happy, and we believe confidence and success can get them there. Help them find their passions and build their strengths. Let them fail, and teach them philanthropy. You will be taking the first steps to raising happy, successful children.

Written by: Leon Scott Baxter, Author


About the Author

Leon Scott Baxter, “America’s Relationship Guru,” is the author of three books on love, romance and relationships. His latest endeavor is a book about the relationship between parents and children, specifically how to raise happy, successful children.

Baxter has personal experience with the topic, having two daughters (10 and 15), who have had incredible success all their lives, while being relatively happy young ladies: started successful charities, run international businesses, have connected with foreign leaders, celebrities, Capitol Hill, written a book, been a toy tester, watched a baseball game with Jackie Robinson’s daughter, and much more. The book should be in publication by 2015.

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